How to know when our ego is serving or harming us?
It is serving us when we are serving ourselves and others through conscious and constructive thoughts, words and actions. Detached observation, acceptance, forgiveness, empathy, kindness, compassion, humility, candour, curiosity, accountability and ownership are hallmarks and manifest in any weather.
It is not serving us when we are hurting ourselves and others through unconscious, defensive and unconstructive thoughts, words and actions. Blame, excuse, denial, unkindness, judgmentalism, aggression, projection, self interest, disownership and lack of accountability are hallmarks and can manifest in any weather.
Without governance, guidance, and good gardening, left to its own devices our ego will serve itself at any cost and choose the latter.
Our ego is masterful at hiding in plain sight: Self-righteousness, projection and judgment are primary indicators of our blind spots.
Our bodies, emotions, ways of thinking and our relationships feel expansive and spacious when we are in service to ourselves and others.
Our bodies, emotions, ways of thinking and our relationships feel contracted when we are not.
An ego with awareness will see itself as a connected part of the greater whole.
An ego without awareness will see itself as the centre of the whole.
It is possible to know the difference and choose to move from one ego state to another. But not without an intent to do so. And then only, with practice, patience, persistence and loving kindness.
In stillness and with attentive grace it is possible to contemplate beyond all separateness, to the unity and connectedness of all.
Martin @ 2020